Grief in a Pandemic

In the midst of a global pandemic it remains one of the most heartbreaking realities that we are unable to grieve properly and support friends in a time of great loss.

Depending on where you are in the world your current restrictions may be different but here in Ontario we are in a “Stay Home” order. This eliminates the opportunity for visitations, funerals, home visits to hug a friend or drop off a thoughtful token casserole.

So in this unique time we need to get creative because grief has not gone away. The heartache that comes with the death of a loved one still happens and the need for us to exercise our empathy is more compelling than ever.

I’ve gathered a few ideas to spark your caring heart into action.


  1. Use your voice- now more than ever people need to hear from friends and family. Use the voice text option on your cell phone to record and send your heartfelt message. Social media like facebook messenger also present a voice recording option to capture your sentiments.

  2. Send a Digital Card- This is a wonderful option to ensure your thoughtful words are received directly with no postal concerns. You can send as a text or an email. The selection of card options is lovely and they are fully customizable. My digital cards shops are EVITE and PUNCHBOWL. *Note Evite and Punchbowl are offering FREE greeting cards to encourage connection during the pandemic.

  3. Make music your gift- Music has alway been an anchor for beautiful memories. Music captures emotions in a way our words do not. If the deceased is someone you knew personally select a song that reminds you of that person and share with the family why it has relevance. If you are not familiar with the deceased, select a song that has always given you a sense of peace in times where you’ve needed it. Your message to the family can express why you’ve chosen this song. You can use Spotify, YouTube, Google, Apple to share music links. (Tip: you could add the link to your digital sympathy card).

  4. Dig up the photos- Looking at old photos is such a healing way for families to unite and reminisce. If you have access to photos of the departed now would be the time to share them and reveal stories that may be unknown to the family. Offering this comfort brings new